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Posts by Susan Weingartner

Gifted? It may not be what you think.

Did you know that being gifted may not translate to school or work success? Gifted people experience the world differently than other people. This doesn’t change as we age, and we’re not only intellectually different. Gifted adults (and children) are typically “super-sensitive” or “over-excitable” (as early translators incorrectly translated) in five key ways (according to […]

Preparing for Goal Setting

This is the time of year for setting goals and making resolutions. It seems like everyone is talking about setting S.M.A.R.T. goals, that is goals that are specific, measurable, attainable, relevant and time-bound. But jumping right into setting smart goals is really putting the cart before the horse. There are things you should do before […]

This New Year’s Set Goals, Not Resolutions

With the new year just begun, it’s natural to think about our hopes for the future. However, I suggest that you do not make a resolution. Rather, consider setting goals for the new year instead. What’s the difference, you may ask? Goals leave room for forgiveness. Resolutions have an all-or-nothing element to them, once we […]

Finding Courage

“Who am I to lead a group discussion about overcoming fear?” I thought as drove towards Starbucks. I was full of fear. Fear no one would show up. Fear someone would show up. Fear my voice would shake like it sometimes had during my public speaking class last semester. Fear, fear, fear. I felt more […]

Cant’ move on? It may be time to “own your stor...

Riddled with resentment? Overtaken by guilt? Drowning in grief? Is there something situation you just can’t seem to get past? You may need to own your story. This begs two questions: “What is my story?” and “How do I own it?” Yes, your story is what happened, but it is more than that. It is […]

Is Self-Inquiry Contagious?

The past several weeks have been a whirlwind of activity. As a thirty-something year old, returning to college has been an adventure. In moments I’ve risen like a phoenix from the ashes of my fears and former failures. Other times I’ve bitten my lip when I shouldn’t have; hiding behind an agreeable smile while seething […]

HALT I AM ME! Emotional First Aid

Feel like giving up? Don’t just yet. While the solution to your problem may be complicated, the solution to your feeling may not be. HALT is an acronym that stands for Hungry, Angry, Lonely or Tired. Originally it was used in the recovery community as a checklist of possible reasons for desiring alcohol. Many others […]

Does “fake it till you make it” wor...

I’ve never been a fan of “fake it till you make it”. Being fake is difficult for me. My eyes seem to refuse to cooperate. I can remember my mother recounting one of my elementary school teachers saying to her, “Susan is never disrespectful, but if looks could kill.” Hiding my feelings, even when it […]

Too much self-control?

Not many years ago I was dangerously reactive. Hyper-aware and hyper-sensitive, I had little control over my reactions, especially in emotional moments. I would sob without choice and explode in fits of temper. Much has changed since then, and I am grateful. However, I’ve recently noticed a different problem. I’ve contained my anger so much […]

Is an “attitude of gratitude” enough?

An “attitude of gratitude” is great but researchers suggest it may not go far enough. Instead they suggest a gratitude practice. Doesn’t that suck! I would much rather be able to say I have “an attitude of gratitude” and move on. Unfortunately it just doesn’t work that way. If we want the benefits like more […]